Words that heal

by Deepak Chopra

There is a long tradition, both East and West, about sacred words. We don’t resort to that kind of thing very much in modern life. If you are a devout Catholic you repeat the rosary, and in many sorts of Buddhist and Hindu meditations a mantra is repeated over and over. There are two reasons for this, usually. One is that the repeated words go directly to God, as prayers do. The other is that repetition fills the mind with a deeper intention that can create a good effect.

I wonder if it isn’t time to consider how words can help to heal. I’ve been fascinated for a long time about how to update traditional spiritual practices, and this one is especially promising.
What can a mere word do to heal?

In ordinary life words can be incredibly powerful, creating instantaneous, often dramatic changes in mind and body. Think of the difference between hearing the words “You’re hired” and “You’re fired.” How many lives have been changed by “I love you”? Yet we actually know very little about how to consciously employ the effect that a single word can have.

Let me make some suggestions for you to ponder:
Withhold harsh words: Being honest doesn’t mean being brutal. In the name of telling the truth, we’ve all heard — and said — things we’re sorry were ever uttered. It’s worth remembering that every cell in your body is eavesdropping on the brain, and when you feel hurt or shocked by what you hear, the same shock is occurring to hundreds of billions of cells.

I became a doctor just on the cusp of a big change in this regard. It used to be that physicians hardly ever told fatally ill patients that they were dying, often withholding even the diagnosis. (When the last emperor of Japan died, he was not told his diagnosis — the old practice still holds in other cultures.) It was thought that receiving bad news could hasten a person’s death and impair his chances of recovery. This effect is known as nocebo, the reverse of placebo. In essence, your body metabolized bad news and becomes sicker, or it metabolizes good news and starts to heal.

Today, we believe it is only ethical to give patients full disclosure about their illness, and on the whole that is the right thing to do. But it doesn’t erase the nocebo effect. Leaving medicine aside, consider withholding harsh, harmful truths in daily life. There is no reason to discourage a child, for example, by saying hurtful things.

It’s well known in psychology that descriptive statements (such as “you’re lazy, you can’t be trusted, you’ll never be as smart as your sister,” etc.) make a much deeper impression than prescriptive statements (such as “pick up your room, remember to come home on time, be nice to your sister” etc.) Sometimes a single derogatory sentence from a parent or close friend can remain stuck in the brain for life, serving as a toxic seed that grows into a belief that one will never be good enough, smart enough, or beautiful enough. It’s much harder to remove these seeds than not to plant them in the first place.

Words that heal: Besides holding back on harsh and derogatory words, saying words that heal really works. Offering reassurance in an anxious situation settles people. Reminding someone that they are loved, respected, and valued should be a habit. Such words serve to bond two people together at a deep level if the words are backed up with simple, sincere, believable emotion — not over-stated emotion but natural feeling. We tend to be shy about exposing ourselves emotionally, but only if you try can you gain the benefit.

Then there are words we say only to ourselves, silent words of healing. In the East there are thousands of such formulas, many gathered under the loose term of mantra, that are repeated in order to infuse the mind with their good effect. You can’t get much effect from repeating a word like love, compassion, kindness, and forgiveness when your mind is agitated or filled with the flotsam of everyday life. But if you deepen your awareness through meditation, which brings one’s attention to a level of silence beneath the surface static, then healing words can have quite a strong effect.

It is taught that healing words, when said at a subtle level of the mind, can do several things. They can purify the mind of negative thoughts by introducing a more positive effect (such as replacing “It’s my fault” with “Blame won’t help anybody”). A healing word can bring comfort; it can add a positive element to your surroundings. It can improve your mood and the overall tone of your demeanor, which others will notice and take heed of.

I’m suggesting that healing words need to play a more important role in our lives. This is a vast territory worth exploring. As a society, we’ve become experts at words that definitely don’t heal: gossip, cynicism, skepticism, accusation, partisan wrangling, smear campaigns, and character assassination. As a result, we know all about the bad effects of such words. Why not consider the positive effect of saying words that work in the opposite way?
Published in the San Francisco Chronicle

The Law of Attraction is Working for You Only Because You Are Attracted to it from Love

The law of attraction is not so much a law as it is really only a description of what happens. This great law only ever describes the truth about how life works within God. There is only one substance, and all is one. This is the one great truth.

If this truth is true, how can there be any externally working law of attraction?

One substance just forever is and it cannot attract itself to itself. It is just what it is. God has said the same thing in the bible, I am that I am, or I am who I am. No further description is ever necessary or even possible.

Some of us need to take steps to see this oneness once more again. The law of attraction is one such step that leads us back again to this oneness of love that is living within us at all times trying to be us.

The simplest of metaphors is simply to compare it all to love. When you love you attract love, when you do not love, you still attract love. This is because love is a oneness, and whatever you do, you will always end up only ever attracting love back again to you.

How does this compare to the law of attraction?

Well this law of attraction is a sub component of the law of love. Love’s law simply says that all is love. Love makes up all things.

When you allow the law of attraction to bring you what the love in you requires, it will work in the fastest way for you then. However, when you want something other than only love, it will act to bring you love in the exact ways that you are not wanting it right now by wanting something else.

This law and all laws only ever work under the law of love, and so are always subordinate to it.

If the law of attraction does work then it must be a law affecting only the segregated free parts of oneness. Soul is a part of God created as a free independent part.

How does the law of attraction apply directly to our soul then?

I will use here the metaphor of a force field to describe how the law of attraction actually works.

Source

Louise Hay - You Can Heal Your Life - 5

Have a mirror handy for this video.

Tips:

1. Look for the negative messages still left in your mind.
2. Be objective of the messages. Make the list of verbal or implied messages left by your parents
3. You keep repeating negative experience because the belief is still in you.
4. Notice how your body reacts.

Enjoy!

Louise Hay - You Can Heal Your Live - 4

Video Points

1. Denial of our good is not loving ourselves.
2. The universe will back up whatever we say and when good comes into our life and we deny it, this is the act of not loving ourselves and we literally push it away.
3. Babies know the perfection of their being. They are full of love, life and express their feelings freely. They express then it’s over. We were all like that but lost it somewhere.  Where did you lose your love for yourself.
4. Look in the mirror and say, “I love and accept you exactly as you are.”
5. What do you think is wrong with you?
6. We are always perfect wherever we are in life.
7. Must periodically do some mental house cleaning.
8. Make a list of all the negative things people said about you.

Louise Hay - You Can Heal Your Live - 3

Have a pen and notebook with you here.

Video Points

1. Your inner belief creates your outer world.
2. I should…
3. Learn to replace should with could. eg If I really wanted to I could… so why haven’t you.
4. Why do I not love myself?

Louise Hay - You Can Heal Your Life - 2

Video Point

1. If you don’t believe it with your gut, you’ll have a difficult time creating your life.
2. Love, joy and happiness comes from the heart.
3. What you put out you will receive.

Inspirational Video of the Day - Love

Today’s Life Lesson is about Love.  I found the below video, very inspirational and loving.  Share your love willingly with everyone and watch the Universe bless you back with love.

Share you love…enjoy!

32 Keys About Life - Day 24 Love

Author: Ken N McIsaac

Love

There are various kinds of love with even more definitions of each. One popular version might be described as the desire for two people to spend their lives together, with a continuing compassion for each other through good and bad times.

Joseph Addison (1672-1719) puts it quite nicely this way: “Two persons who have chosen each other out of all the species with a design to be each other’s mutual comfort and entertainment have, in that action, bound themselves to be good-humored, affable, discreet, forgiving, patient, and joyful, with respect to each other’s frailties and perfections, to the end of their lives.”

Of course it isn’t always easy because conflicts about ideas, choices and habits arise. Some of these conflicting situations are easy to overlook while others can be very annoying, upsetting, and continual. Some personal mannerisms of one may never suit those of the other, and compromise cannot always be reached. Parting ways might seem inevitable, but often relaxing and rethinking the whole picture can result in a positive turn.

For example, many difficulties in a friendship, including marriage, can be put to the back by the simple act of resignation. By accepting certain personal conditions as permanent, they will somehow become more acceptable. Eventually the conflicting ideas may not be much of an issue, thanks to resignation. This leaves more room for mutual contentment and fondness.

Has the other’s point of view been considered earnestly? How about a commitment to doing things that are basically unfavorable if it will improve the relationship? What are the other’s favorable traits and conditions that are being overlooked? Nobody has to be perfect!

“If you wished to be loved, love.” - Lucius Seneca (3-65)

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Dr Wayne Dyer: Excuses Begone on Hayhouse Radio

Just finished listening to Dr. Wayne Dyer at Hayhouse Radio.  The show encircled the topic, Excuses Begone! Living in Inspiration.  It was a fantastic show!  Here’s a couple of questions from callers and inspirational words from Dr. Dyer himself.

Inspirational words:

1. What you give out you receive.
2. When staying in a place too long and feeling sorry for yourself and not moving, spirit come in and move you.  Stop from being in the same place too long.
3. Keep saying what you want and it will manifest.

Callers:

1. I find myself surrounded with angry and negative people.  What can I do to change that?
   • Remove yourself from the situation.
   • Darkness dissolves when you bring in the light. Become the light.
   • Radiate at a higher energy level.
   • When you get angry at someone for getting angry at you, you expand their darkness to yourself.
   • Love everyone and view everyone as a teacher.
   • Everything you fight weakens you.
2. I’m finding it difficult to sit and write my book. I am wanting to do other things aside from that. When I sit to do it, I feel to do other things like go for walks, sleep, talk on the phone.
   What should I do?
   • Take your time.
   • If you feel to talk, talk.  If you feel to walk, go for a walk, sleep, sleep. This is spirit’s way of telling you that you are not ready yet.
   • In time of restlessness, see it as already completed, then go to the feeling state of it already completed.  Feel how good it feels for it to be completed.
   • Stop telling yourself that it’s you that have to do it, ie St Francis asked, “…make me an instrument of Thy peace..” Meaning use me as your vessel.
   • Be as Van Gough, leave your body at the door when approaching a project.
3. I’m finding it very difficult to tap into intuition. How can I do this?
   • First stop telling yourself you can’t tap into intuition as the subliminal mind can’t tell the difference between this thought because it’s just a thought and the truth.
   • You say that you can’t be 100% certain that you can’t tap into intuition, why do you think you can’t do it. What if you couldn’t think that thought of I can’t? You have to think the thought that you can. You would feel better.
   • Feeling better is only one thought away.
   • The feeling better manifestation will start aligning you with good things.
   • Keep energy high. ” I intend to live an inspired life.”
   • We are all magnets.  Become magnetized to spirit.

Books and Videos he spoke of:

1. Viruses of the Mind
2. Biology of belief
3. The Shift
4. Excuses Begone!: How to Change Lifelong, Self-Defeating Thinking Habits

Enjoy